Most people, when they say to others “forgive”, they mean stop processing the pain, because your pain makes them uncomfortable. The only way of healing is through the pain — and it is only through the pain that true forgiveness can happen.
Forgiveness is a process. . . it lives after the processing of grief and of facing abandonment.
True forgiveness is a process that takes us deep into ourselves and our own pain. It is not the same as excusing the abuser. It cannot be forced; it cannot be accomplished by saying mere words. It cannot be rushed, for if it is rushed it is false.
Forgiveness is a journey. . . . a journey into a wound that someone has made in us. . . . only to discover that the wound is deeper than this person who wounded us, and that there are a lot of other people in this wound, and one of those includes myself.
Until we forgive the darkness in ourselves, we do not know what forgiveness is.
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Good read. Thanks for this. Forgiveness requires a lot of courage and strength. Revenge is easy. Forgiveness is the real challenge